Saturday, February 11, 2017

Unfashionable, But Maybe It'll Work?

Well, I realized I needed to do a post... but I didn't know what to do.

I grabbed some clothes.. which turned out not to match too well... but I thought they still looked artsy, so I decided to use them anyways :D

And so, here is another of my not-so-fashionable fashion posts ;) 

Also, it was REALLY muddy and windy out... so... it was hard to get good pictures ;) 

It was a little cold out ;)

Everything but the boots were hand-me-downs or thrifted. Those were bought at Murdoch's.

This is sort of a weird outfit... part conservative home schooler, part cowgirl, part hippie. 

I'm not sure what I think of it... but, hey! Maybe you can look at this post and know what to not wear!!!!!

Saturday, January 28, 2017

Placing Colorful Words Appropriately

Originally posted here.

Today I'm sharing a series of posts I did on Facebook a while back. It got a lot of attention (Uhhm..negative). 😝 😉 So, just thought you might all like to see it also!

There are a few slang words that are accepted in our modern-day society as being good. I want to discuss two of the main ones  OMG (Oh my gosh, golly  or God, Jesus, lord, etc)  and darn (dang). (And all other crude slang words). And I want to present them from three different perspectives that I have categoirized under my own titles (not necessarily accurate titles :b): Mainstream Christian, Conservative Christian, and Secular.

  1. Mainstream Christian: As Christians we try to live good lives. Most of us would agree that blasphemy is one of the worst sins we can commit against God. And normally we refrain from most strong language. But what about when it comes to the texting abbreviation OMG or one of the most common slang words, darn?

 Exodus 20:7 is very clear that we are not to use God's name in vain. If using OMG as a swear word and exclamation aren't wrong then I don't know what is. As Christians we ought to be good examples, the salt of the earth and light of the world.

Using crude, slang language  (especially thowe words that mean the same as the stronger words) improperly is not setting up a good example, nor is it respectful to God or man.

2. Conservative Christian: As conservatives, we try to believe out of the box. Be unlike others. Be good examples. In actions, dress, and SPEACH. And yes, our speach does matter. A lot of secular people have been surpised when they see "strict" people have "filthy" mouths, even if that mouth is only saying a harmless word such as darn. There's a new branch of conservatives that are so "separate from the world" that they only use the Hebrew names for God.

Example: they call the Lord Yahweh, Jesus Yahshua, God Elohim and so on. These people will say that they are not being blasphemous because they are not taking the Lord's ( Yahweh's ) name in vain. ( Exodus 20:7, Leviticus 18:21, ). But look at this other commandment in Exodus 23:13 "And in all things that I have said unto you be circumspect: and make no mention of the name of other gods, neither let it be heard out of thy mouth." And Joshua 23:7 "That ye come not among the nations, these that remain among you; neither make mention of the name of their gods. nor cause to swear by them, neither serve them, nor bow yourselves unto them."

 Also see Matthew 5:34-37. (Don't swear by God, heaven, His throne or even your own head). Even if God, Jesus and Lord are not Yahweh's correct names, even if you do not feel it is necessary to be pure in speach and respectable for God, we should not be blasphemous to Yahweh by cursing orswearing by other gods' names or ANYTHING.

3. Secular (not necessarily atheists but also including atheist ):
In a fast society that is constantly growing some things never change: Respect and dignity. Certain things are accepted as right for civilization, both from non-christians and Christians alike. All believe murder, stealing, cheating and lying are morally and ethically wrong. In a world where we constantly strive to be the best, have the best, know the best, do the best we lack one thing - a clean mouth. I mean, why be mostly clean if you aren't all clean? ;)

 And how does this relate to our mouth? Does the way we speak really matter? When being interviewed for an important job we don't usually use slang language when speaking. When answering a business call we don't say "OMG, is that right!" or "That's a darn good idea."

 Think about the word "ain't". That is considered uneducated. Unrefined. To use immature, slang phrases or words such as OMG and darn only make you look like you came from the slums, hills, or some other uncivilized place. Act with dignity, dress with dignity and SPEAK with dignity and you WILL get far in life and rise to the top of everyone's respect  list (excepting those who lack dignity themselves ;b ).

 And here's a little rant that holds no logic for or against this argument, but something I've always wondered about atheists.

If you believe Jesus didn't exist, why use His name so much? Just saying ;) And an example of what it looks like when you don't choose your words wisely:). People say it doesn't matter. Maybe it doesn't. But then why is education pushed so hard if the way we speak, our minds aren't so vital to society?

 People may say that it's a personal thing. Is it? How many people are you influencing or offending by the way you speak? How are you making Yahweh feel?

  gramar ain't importan It don't matter what I say or how I says it. It makes me so mad that people tell that I am Unejucaeted jus becus I spell bad or talk improper. Sense words our Manmade it isn't matter what we say or how we say it. We made them. It'd stupid to say that it is wrong to say otherwise. And since langage is manmade so is scooling. so it no matter if we have it. Or even if we do We still shouldn't be forced to talk one way. Where is fun and the Color in talking how people say to? It don't mean I is hillbilly or not smart. I just expressing myself how I want too. and if it don't make since to u that's you're fault. and also it don't matter wae words I use. if I use them rite they meen What I want them to meen. It is true. Nothing matters if you saye I are Bad you a stupid judgemental fool. have a horrible day and Kepe frowning becus the sun is still up! O an hear is a pitcher of my beutifool Father

Words matter!!! They have meaning! And yes, what we say does add color to our lives - but it is up to us to choose which colors we want our lives showing - black or white? Good or evil? Refined or trashy? Loving or careless? And yes, our words will determine much of how this affects our lives.

Oops! Wrong picture:b
So, what do you all think? Are these sort of "small" words that big of a deal? Should we as individuals use them? To see the posts on Facebook click the on the links below: Post #1 Post #2 Post #3 Post #4

Monday, January 16, 2017

The Miniature Model

Sorry this post is late, y'all... I was at a wedding on Saturday (was lovely :D )!

This is a fun photo shoot I did with my friend's baby, Annalise. We thought it would be fun to do a fashion post from a 1-year old's perspective. 

I got the dress from a dollar store, and the rest is just fun... ENJOY!!!!

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Objectifying Guys

Originally posted here

Most girls hate men that objectify them - the type of guys that think of girls as nothing more than a thing to use as they please, someone to control, etc.

But amidst all their complaining of how guys are evil, selfish beings with no good guys left, most girls are doing the same thing they hate those guys for- making unrealistic images out of men for their own selves.

 Fantasies based on nothing more than selfish dreams.

Here are three ways I feel we, as girls, objectify men. Remember, these are just my personal convictions and things I've noticed in other girls (and myself) and the subsequent consequences of what they did/ did not do. :)

1. Flirting (for no purpose, save the thrill of flirting) - Selfish Means of Drawing Attention
 When a girl does this she is not thinking of the guy in a very nice way. He's become an object in her mind, one she is trying to conquer for her own personal and emotional reasons. She is not thinking of him as a friend. She is not considering ways that she can help him... but of ways that he can please her. Be something to her. 
  One who plays with a guy's emotions through means of flirting does so to satisfy her own wants. 

  2. Dramatizing About Guys Through Discussions or Media
 I've seen this done in several ways: blogging, social media, literature, and friends. In every situation girls will talk about real and fictional guys with unrealistic ideals about them. I will use 16 year old fictional characters Jana and her friend Carol to explain what I mean of how girls do this with boys.

example 1:
Jana, has several "guy friends". 
Not that this is bad. 
She texts them all regularly. 
This is not necessarily bad either. 
 But her whole life is wrapped around these guys. One evening after a terribly long, stressful day Jana gets on facebook. Her friend, Chad is on, so she sends him a message. He doesn't reply as soon as she'd like. She sends out quick messages to her three other friends, Bryon, Luke and Tim who are also on facebook. 
Soon after one of them replies. She gives a quick squeal of delight and texts back. Not long after this most of her guy friends are texting Jana. Her fingers are typing rapidly as she talks to each of them. 
One of her girl-friends, Carol, sends a message to Jana. 
Jana replies... only after having replied to each of the other guys multiple times each. They chat a bit, but Jana is disinterested with her best friend right now and doesn't keep her part of the conversation up. Soon she's just facebook messaging her guy friends. Jana feels like her day has been pretty good after all as she finally goes to bed late that night, all her stress gone. 

Now what was wrong with this? It isn't that what she was doing was necessarily bad... except she was making false images out of all these young men.

Already her happiness was wrapped around how they treated her - her happiness was purely based on a selfish level.

It had nothing to do with how her friendship was with Carol, what she did with others, or even her relationship with God. It was purely based on the vibes she got from her guy-friends. 

example 2: 
"Have you started Mockingbird yet?" Carol runs up to Jana the next day. 
 "A little. Isn't Peeta so great in this one?" 
 Jana smiles and pulls the book from her bag, "Just listen to this!" She reads a part from the book depicting their favorite character doing a particularly unique thing. "I can't wait for the last movie to be released!" Carol sighs as Jana finishes reading. 
 "Which reminds me," Jana squeals in agreement, adding "There's a new movie coming out next month and you won't believe who acts in it?" 
 "Who!?" Carol asks, eyes big. 
As Jana tells her, Carol returns, "Not him! Oh, I'm just dying to see that!" 

Again, fiction fan talk can be fun... and not bad. But why do so many girls focus only on the guys in fiction? the plots (unless it's that romantic twist) don't matter. The other characters are okay... but those fake guys - "If only there were a real man like - I'd marry him today!"

The sad thing is most of these girls are serious. And even sadder... few of them can understand that men and fictional characters are two different things... you can't base real life dreams off of a made-up idea.

example 3:
Later that night Carol is excited because a certain guy messaged her - first! She quickly calls Jana to let her know of the "good news". 
 "No way!" Jana giggles. "What did he say? Really!?" 
 Carol must have asked Jana how her guy-life was doing, because Jana next says, "Really good. Chad messages me a lot still. But guess who has started talking to me more!? Jordyn!!! I know! I still don't know which I like best. He has just like the greatest hair ever, but Jordyn is just so sweet!" 

 I think it's pretty obvious that these girls are boy crazy :/ And I may have exaggerated a little (not much, you can be sure). 

The way girls and women do this online and in real life, about unreal guys is just as sickening.

 Whether talking about all the awesome guys in Twilight, Hunger Games or Lord of The Rings. Or comparing and dreaming about boy-celebrities in music and tv ( I don't need to give examples, I'm afraid because there are soooo many ). Or swooning over the terribly chivalrous men of the Jane Austin era literature, girls are comparing each guy to how their future husband will someday be by making "objects" and idols out of them. 

 Girls, what we are doing is "drooling" ( figuratively ) over men in an unladylike way. As if guys were made just to please us... 

  3. "I just can't talk to guys." - Through shyness

"'s that objectifying boys????" 
This is the most common and subtle way girls dehumanize men. A lot of my readers might not relate to my first two points... but many of you may be in this third category. 

 A while back I read a book by Elizabeth and Anna Sofia Botkin. I disagreed with most of their book and thought it too extreme, but they made one very crucial point. 

 "Boys are people, too." 

 When you say you can't talk to guys in a specific age group you are automatically saying that you do not see these certain men as people but as objects. Instead of reacting with firtation, you ignore them totally (as if that is better). 

 You are forgetting that they are people. Just think about it. I know guys that act so shy and won't hardly speak a word to girls. This irritates me to death. When someone is so shy that they can't talk to you because of your gender or age... that's just horrible.

People tend to classify me more in the first category as I can be "too" friendly so I take it as rude when people (guys) won't talk to me. I'm like, "Come on, dude! This is just a conversation not a marriage proposition." Lol. If a guy can't talk to me he's got problems. What do most guys think when we won't talk to them? 

Not that it isn't a struggle. We have so many people telling us girls how to act, talk, and dress around guys. There's so much peer pressure about either catching a good guy or acting appropriate.

I'm not saying it's not hard.

But we still need to think about how our words and action will make those guys feel. 

It can actually be worse to not talk to a guy than to flirt with him. By not talking you show that you are so interested in him as a guy that you can't talk to him, yet aren't interested enough to find out more about him as a person. You don't care about him as a human being, is what is being unintentionally said. 

 But how should we treat guys? 

 We should treat guys our age just like anybody else. 
If the occasion calls for it, say "hi!".  Ask how they are doing. Start conversation, or observe. If they are disinterested, don't force them to keep talking, or if they walk away, let them, just like you would any other person. Treat a guy just as you would a person. Be you.

If the guy still walks away after you have been nice - that's their problem. All you can do is be sociable. If they move on, do the same yourself. Talk to the next person - guy or girl. If you know someone, don't ignore them - even if they are a guy. 

 It's not wrong to initiate or have conversations with guys, even multiple guys. What's wrong is thinking of guys in an unrealistic way and how you react to those thoughts. 

 And for the benefit of my many girl friends who label themselves boy-crazy - I'm not saying it's wrong to like guys or even want to get married. I'm saying treat guys like people. 

Don't idolize them. 

Don't hurt them by flirting with them. 

Think of them, not yourself, more often. And also, make sure to keep the multiple girls in your life, too. Don't just have friends that are guys. That's just weird, and choosing your friends a little too closely. ;) 

 Don't objectify specific people or ideas about people, but be a friend to all people. Of course even when being friends with guys, there's a balance. It's extremely hard when trying not to flirt to accidentally fall into category 3, or when trying to not be rude to become too flirty. 

And people will often falsely accuse you as you try to find this balance.

But that's okay... just keep being nice.

 And you can't quite treat guys as you would your close girl friends, but you can treat them as friends, as people deserving respect and friendship, with out being awkward or rude or flirty. :D 

  What do you think of my thoughts on this? As a girl, do you get classified as a certain type when around guys? What are some things you think you can do to be a better friend to EVERYONE? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this!

Saturday, December 24, 2016

Therapeutic Foot Soap {Review}

I'm reviewing Oleavine Therapeutic Foot Soap. I received this product in exchange for my honest review through Tomoson and Oleavine.

First of all, I love Oleavine. A while ago I reviewed one of my favorite moisturizers to date from there that was really nice. So when I had the chance to give the Therapeutic Foot Soap a try, I had to give it a shot.

 Turns out that this was a good thing for more than myself. I think I've used the product a couple of times at most, but my dad has used it several times.

But let me go over the product. The soap is made of tea tree oil and is mint for soothing relief. The soap is advertised as good for skin irritation, foot/body odor, dry/itchy skin, and body acne. The only thing we've used it for so far is feet, but I want to try it for more than that.

 For some reason, we had it in our mind that we were supposed to add this soap to warm water to soak our feet in and I've only just realized that that was technically the wrong way to use this soap as I write this review. Well, then. Score for me for observance. I'm obviously skilled there.

I will say that I liked this as a soaking agent. I used it one day when my feet were particular sore, if I recall, and it was incredibly soothing on my tired feet. My dad has some feet problems and he also confirms the soothing nature of this product. So while we may not have used it right at first, we certainly found it useful. Now to try it for its actual purpose. Check it out on its website, here.

~ Bethany

Lazy Lidz Sleep Mask {Product Reviews}

 Some exciting changes are coming to A Pinch of Classy, but we'll talk more about that in the future. Now I'm going to present you with yet another review. I KNOW. But only a few more days. 2017 has something new coming. For now, I'm reviewing the Lazy Lidz sleep mask.

 A really sad tale goes with this sleep mask and it is the primary reason I haven't reviewed it yet. It's also the reason I don't have a photo to include with this post. Let's begin our tale...

 Once upon a time there was a girl (that's me) who wanted a sleep mask because her first sleep mask was borrowed forever (stolen?) by her mother. She was sent one to review by a lovely company and her happiness began. Oh, but that happiness was short lived. After she had spent a bit of time with the mask, she went on a trip, taking it with her to block out light. It would have been better if she'd left it at home. Not even a few hours into the trip, she offered someone else the opportunity to borrow her mask because sleeping in vehicles is hard. It was then that the mask disappeared. The girl did not review the mask because she thought she would find it to take a photo. Alas, it was not meant to be.

 And that is the story of how I lost a really awesome item while on a trip. *Sad sigh.* And now that I'm going to be living in a college apartment next semester, I could really use that mask... how sad.

 Though I don't have a photo of the mask, I will direct you to the Amazon page, here.

I like this mask. It doesn't have any plastic feeling pieces on the mask. It's soft and comfortable against your face and the satin material is very nice. Instead of something that pokes into your skin, it just rests comfortably. The inside is soft cotton velvet. The mask comes with a free set of ear plugs, too, so that's nice. It's just a good product and a good company. Check them out at the link above.

~ Bethany

Speed Jump Rope {Review}

 Time for a mystery, gang! *Rounds up the Scooby-Doo characters.* But really. This product is a bit of a mystery. It got behind on my review list and now I can't find it online. I'll have to check in with the company to try to find out what happened, but here's what I know. This product is called Speed Jump Rope Discover the Secret to Blast Fat! by Bella Naturals. The problem? When I visit the URL where I bought it, a completely different product pops up. Weird. So I shall review and send you to that site and maybe one of us will discover the mystery eventually. I received this product in exchange for my honest review via Tomoson.

My room is disorganized currently and I'm preparing for a big move and whatnot. I'm not totally sure where this jump rope is among the confusion right now, but I want to find it because I definitely want to take it to school with me. Here's a photo from the company since mine is unavailable for a photo shoot.

 When you think jump ropes, you think little kids playing a game while jumping over the rope swung by two other kids. But this jump rope is not like other jump rope. In fact, it isn't even a rope at all. The portion usually designated a rope is a nice ten-foot cable. (I'm pretty sure this is in my closet. Probably). Now, if you're thinking that ten feet sounds like a lot for some short persons (*cough* me *cough*) you're right. That isn't long. But this jump rope is special. It's adjustable. See the metal things on the end of the handles? You can tighten those at any length on the 'rope' and the product comes with instructions for you to set the rope to your height specifications. You can cut the excess cord when you're done. I just left mine, though, and hold both the handle and cord when jumping. Not ideal, but I can adjust it for different people in future. It's light and there's a slight learning curve, but it's nice and sturdy.

This jump rope is specifically designed for people to lose weight, not a child's toy at all. It's a really neat product and I can't wait to use it for a good while to come because I can definitely stand to lose more weight. What makes it all the more sadder is that I can't find the product! I will try to update you if I am able to track it down. For now, here is the link to the Amazon listing it was supposed to be under.

~ Bethany