Monday, January 16, 2017

The Miniature Model

Sorry this post is late, y'all... I was at a wedding on Saturday (was lovely :D )!

This is a fun photo shoot I did with my friend's baby, Annalise. We thought it would be fun to do a fashion post from a 1-year old's perspective. 

I got the dress from a dollar store, and the rest is just fun... ENJOY!!!!

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Objectifying Guys

Originally posted here

Most girls hate men that objectify them - the type of guys that think of girls as nothing more than a thing to use as they please, someone to control, etc.

But amidst all their complaining of how guys are evil, selfish beings with no good guys left, most girls are doing the same thing they hate those guys for- making unrealistic images out of men for their own selves.

 Fantasies based on nothing more than selfish dreams.

Here are three ways I feel we, as girls, objectify men. Remember, these are just my personal convictions and things I've noticed in other girls (and myself) and the subsequent consequences of what they did/ did not do. :)

1. Flirting (for no purpose, save the thrill of flirting) - Selfish Means of Drawing Attention
 When a girl does this she is not thinking of the guy in a very nice way. He's become an object in her mind, one she is trying to conquer for her own personal and emotional reasons. She is not thinking of him as a friend. She is not considering ways that she can help him... but of ways that he can please her. Be something to her. 
  One who plays with a guy's emotions through means of flirting does so to satisfy her own wants. 

  2. Dramatizing About Guys Through Discussions or Media
 I've seen this done in several ways: blogging, social media, literature, and friends. In every situation girls will talk about real and fictional guys with unrealistic ideals about them. I will use 16 year old fictional characters Jana and her friend Carol to explain what I mean of how girls do this with boys.

example 1:
Jana, has several "guy friends". 
Not that this is bad. 
She texts them all regularly. 
This is not necessarily bad either. 
 But her whole life is wrapped around these guys. One evening after a terribly long, stressful day Jana gets on facebook. Her friend, Chad is on, so she sends him a message. He doesn't reply as soon as she'd like. She sends out quick messages to her three other friends, Bryon, Luke and Tim who are also on facebook. 
Soon after one of them replies. She gives a quick squeal of delight and texts back. Not long after this most of her guy friends are texting Jana. Her fingers are typing rapidly as she talks to each of them. 
One of her girl-friends, Carol, sends a message to Jana. 
Jana replies... only after having replied to each of the other guys multiple times each. They chat a bit, but Jana is disinterested with her best friend right now and doesn't keep her part of the conversation up. Soon she's just facebook messaging her guy friends. Jana feels like her day has been pretty good after all as she finally goes to bed late that night, all her stress gone. 

Now what was wrong with this? It isn't that what she was doing was necessarily bad... except she was making false images out of all these young men.

Already her happiness was wrapped around how they treated her - her happiness was purely based on a selfish level.

It had nothing to do with how her friendship was with Carol, what she did with others, or even her relationship with God. It was purely based on the vibes she got from her guy-friends. 

example 2: 
"Have you started Mockingbird yet?" Carol runs up to Jana the next day. 
 "A little. Isn't Peeta so great in this one?" 
 Jana smiles and pulls the book from her bag, "Just listen to this!" She reads a part from the book depicting their favorite character doing a particularly unique thing. "I can't wait for the last movie to be released!" Carol sighs as Jana finishes reading. 
 "Which reminds me," Jana squeals in agreement, adding "There's a new movie coming out next month and you won't believe who acts in it?" 
 "Who!?" Carol asks, eyes big. 
As Jana tells her, Carol returns, "Not him! Oh, I'm just dying to see that!" 

Again, fiction fan talk can be fun... and not bad. But why do so many girls focus only on the guys in fiction? the plots (unless it's that romantic twist) don't matter. The other characters are okay... but those fake guys - "If only there were a real man like - I'd marry him today!"

The sad thing is most of these girls are serious. And even sadder... few of them can understand that men and fictional characters are two different things... you can't base real life dreams off of a made-up idea.

example 3:
Later that night Carol is excited because a certain guy messaged her - first! She quickly calls Jana to let her know of the "good news". 
 "No way!" Jana giggles. "What did he say? Really!?" 
 Carol must have asked Jana how her guy-life was doing, because Jana next says, "Really good. Chad messages me a lot still. But guess who has started talking to me more!? Jordyn!!! I know! I still don't know which I like best. He has just like the greatest hair ever, but Jordyn is just so sweet!" 

 I think it's pretty obvious that these girls are boy crazy :/ And I may have exaggerated a little (not much, you can be sure). 

The way girls and women do this online and in real life, about unreal guys is just as sickening.

 Whether talking about all the awesome guys in Twilight, Hunger Games or Lord of The Rings. Or comparing and dreaming about boy-celebrities in music and tv ( I don't need to give examples, I'm afraid because there are soooo many ). Or swooning over the terribly chivalrous men of the Jane Austin era literature, girls are comparing each guy to how their future husband will someday be by making "objects" and idols out of them. 

 Girls, what we are doing is "drooling" ( figuratively ) over men in an unladylike way. As if guys were made just to please us... 

  3. "I just can't talk to guys." - Through shyness

"'s that objectifying boys????" 
This is the most common and subtle way girls dehumanize men. A lot of my readers might not relate to my first two points... but many of you may be in this third category. 

 A while back I read a book by Elizabeth and Anna Sofia Botkin. I disagreed with most of their book and thought it too extreme, but they made one very crucial point. 

 "Boys are people, too." 

 When you say you can't talk to guys in a specific age group you are automatically saying that you do not see these certain men as people but as objects. Instead of reacting with firtation, you ignore them totally (as if that is better). 

 You are forgetting that they are people. Just think about it. I know guys that act so shy and won't hardly speak a word to girls. This irritates me to death. When someone is so shy that they can't talk to you because of your gender or age... that's just horrible.

People tend to classify me more in the first category as I can be "too" friendly so I take it as rude when people (guys) won't talk to me. I'm like, "Come on, dude! This is just a conversation not a marriage proposition." Lol. If a guy can't talk to me he's got problems. What do most guys think when we won't talk to them? 

Not that it isn't a struggle. We have so many people telling us girls how to act, talk, and dress around guys. There's so much peer pressure about either catching a good guy or acting appropriate.

I'm not saying it's not hard.

But we still need to think about how our words and action will make those guys feel. 

It can actually be worse to not talk to a guy than to flirt with him. By not talking you show that you are so interested in him as a guy that you can't talk to him, yet aren't interested enough to find out more about him as a person. You don't care about him as a human being, is what is being unintentionally said. 

 But how should we treat guys? 

 We should treat guys our age just like anybody else. 
If the occasion calls for it, say "hi!".  Ask how they are doing. Start conversation, or observe. If they are disinterested, don't force them to keep talking, or if they walk away, let them, just like you would any other person. Treat a guy just as you would a person. Be you.

If the guy still walks away after you have been nice - that's their problem. All you can do is be sociable. If they move on, do the same yourself. Talk to the next person - guy or girl. If you know someone, don't ignore them - even if they are a guy. 

 It's not wrong to initiate or have conversations with guys, even multiple guys. What's wrong is thinking of guys in an unrealistic way and how you react to those thoughts. 

 And for the benefit of my many girl friends who label themselves boy-crazy - I'm not saying it's wrong to like guys or even want to get married. I'm saying treat guys like people. 

Don't idolize them. 

Don't hurt them by flirting with them. 

Think of them, not yourself, more often. And also, make sure to keep the multiple girls in your life, too. Don't just have friends that are guys. That's just weird, and choosing your friends a little too closely. ;) 

 Don't objectify specific people or ideas about people, but be a friend to all people. Of course even when being friends with guys, there's a balance. It's extremely hard when trying not to flirt to accidentally fall into category 3, or when trying to not be rude to become too flirty. 

And people will often falsely accuse you as you try to find this balance.

But that's okay... just keep being nice.

 And you can't quite treat guys as you would your close girl friends, but you can treat them as friends, as people deserving respect and friendship, with out being awkward or rude or flirty. :D 

  What do you think of my thoughts on this? As a girl, do you get classified as a certain type when around guys? What are some things you think you can do to be a better friend to EVERYONE? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this!

Saturday, December 24, 2016

Therapeutic Foot Soap {Review}

I'm reviewing Oleavine Therapeutic Foot Soap. I received this product in exchange for my honest review through Tomoson and Oleavine.

First of all, I love Oleavine. A while ago I reviewed one of my favorite moisturizers to date from there that was really nice. So when I had the chance to give the Therapeutic Foot Soap a try, I had to give it a shot.

 Turns out that this was a good thing for more than myself. I think I've used the product a couple of times at most, but my dad has used it several times.

But let me go over the product. The soap is made of tea tree oil and is mint for soothing relief. The soap is advertised as good for skin irritation, foot/body odor, dry/itchy skin, and body acne. The only thing we've used it for so far is feet, but I want to try it for more than that.

 For some reason, we had it in our mind that we were supposed to add this soap to warm water to soak our feet in and I've only just realized that that was technically the wrong way to use this soap as I write this review. Well, then. Score for me for observance. I'm obviously skilled there.

I will say that I liked this as a soaking agent. I used it one day when my feet were particular sore, if I recall, and it was incredibly soothing on my tired feet. My dad has some feet problems and he also confirms the soothing nature of this product. So while we may not have used it right at first, we certainly found it useful. Now to try it for its actual purpose. Check it out on its website, here.

~ Bethany

Lazy Lidz Sleep Mask {Product Reviews}

 Some exciting changes are coming to A Pinch of Classy, but we'll talk more about that in the future. Now I'm going to present you with yet another review. I KNOW. But only a few more days. 2017 has something new coming. For now, I'm reviewing the Lazy Lidz sleep mask.

 A really sad tale goes with this sleep mask and it is the primary reason I haven't reviewed it yet. It's also the reason I don't have a photo to include with this post. Let's begin our tale...

 Once upon a time there was a girl (that's me) who wanted a sleep mask because her first sleep mask was borrowed forever (stolen?) by her mother. She was sent one to review by a lovely company and her happiness began. Oh, but that happiness was short lived. After she had spent a bit of time with the mask, she went on a trip, taking it with her to block out light. It would have been better if she'd left it at home. Not even a few hours into the trip, she offered someone else the opportunity to borrow her mask because sleeping in vehicles is hard. It was then that the mask disappeared. The girl did not review the mask because she thought she would find it to take a photo. Alas, it was not meant to be.

 And that is the story of how I lost a really awesome item while on a trip. *Sad sigh.* And now that I'm going to be living in a college apartment next semester, I could really use that mask... how sad.

 Though I don't have a photo of the mask, I will direct you to the Amazon page, here.

I like this mask. It doesn't have any plastic feeling pieces on the mask. It's soft and comfortable against your face and the satin material is very nice. Instead of something that pokes into your skin, it just rests comfortably. The inside is soft cotton velvet. The mask comes with a free set of ear plugs, too, so that's nice. It's just a good product and a good company. Check them out at the link above.

~ Bethany

Speed Jump Rope {Review}

 Time for a mystery, gang! *Rounds up the Scooby-Doo characters.* But really. This product is a bit of a mystery. It got behind on my review list and now I can't find it online. I'll have to check in with the company to try to find out what happened, but here's what I know. This product is called Speed Jump Rope Discover the Secret to Blast Fat! by Bella Naturals. The problem? When I visit the URL where I bought it, a completely different product pops up. Weird. So I shall review and send you to that site and maybe one of us will discover the mystery eventually. I received this product in exchange for my honest review via Tomoson.

My room is disorganized currently and I'm preparing for a big move and whatnot. I'm not totally sure where this jump rope is among the confusion right now, but I want to find it because I definitely want to take it to school with me. Here's a photo from the company since mine is unavailable for a photo shoot.

 When you think jump ropes, you think little kids playing a game while jumping over the rope swung by two other kids. But this jump rope is not like other jump rope. In fact, it isn't even a rope at all. The portion usually designated a rope is a nice ten-foot cable. (I'm pretty sure this is in my closet. Probably). Now, if you're thinking that ten feet sounds like a lot for some short persons (*cough* me *cough*) you're right. That isn't long. But this jump rope is special. It's adjustable. See the metal things on the end of the handles? You can tighten those at any length on the 'rope' and the product comes with instructions for you to set the rope to your height specifications. You can cut the excess cord when you're done. I just left mine, though, and hold both the handle and cord when jumping. Not ideal, but I can adjust it for different people in future. It's light and there's a slight learning curve, but it's nice and sturdy.

This jump rope is specifically designed for people to lose weight, not a child's toy at all. It's a really neat product and I can't wait to use it for a good while to come because I can definitely stand to lose more weight. What makes it all the more sadder is that I can't find the product! I will try to update you if I am able to track it down. For now, here is the link to the Amazon listing it was supposed to be under.

~ Bethany

LeliaSea {Review}

Brace yourselves. More reviews are coming. This review? For LeliaSea Dead Sea Mineral Hand Cream. You read that right. Dead sea. I received this product in exchange for my honest review through Tomoson and LeliaSea.

First a little backstory on why I might be reviewing hand cream. Isn't that just lotion? Well, not exactly. But here's the thing. I've always had dry skin issues. When I was a child, every winter the skin on my hands would crack and bleed. It wasn't fun AT ALL. It was so bad at points, that my mom would put vaseline on my hands and cover them with socks at night. True story. I don't know about you, but vaseline covered sock hands are just not that attractive or practical... and that can be downright annoying. Needless to say, I sort of abandoned my vaseline and sock days as I grew older. The dry skin persisted at times, but thankfully not to the degree it had before.

As you can see in the photo, some of the bottle has worn a little bit, but the inside is what's important.

 So. Dry skin. I like lotion. It's good. But this stuff is really nice. It's designed specifically for the hands, so not a body cream. And it leaves you hands feeling incredibly soft without that "oh, I'm wearing lotion" feeling. You know? The one where you feel like you need to wipe your hands off or something? My hands are pretty dry at times so I they may not feel totally moistened, but the cream still works pretty well. The cream is thicker than most lotions which adds to the moisture, I think. Sometimes when I use thin moisturize, for example, my face will still feel dry. This stuff doesn't feel dry right after applying which is nice. Also, I love the smell. It doesn't have a strange, chemical smell, or lack of smell, but it doesn't have an overpowering scent either. The lotion is a soft, floral scent that is just enough to add to your overall scent without impeding on anyone's senses (or clashing with other scents you're wearing, as someone so aptly mentioned in an Amazon review). My mom even mentioned that I smelled good today while I was wearing this stuff. I'm pretty sure the cream had a part in that.

 But what's the cream made of? Well, obviously the cream comes from minerals in the Dead Sea. Add some essential oils, herbal extracts, and multi-vitamin complexes, and you have a pretty nice little product. Another thing I like about this product? It's compact. It can be placed in a purse (or the pocket of the bathroom bag I reviewed yesterday) easily. While the item is small, it lasts a good while because you only need a bit of the cream to spread on your hands. I believe you can find it in a larger size as well, if that's more up your alley. Overall, I like this product and I'm taking it with me to school. Hurrah. You can check out this product on Amazon here.

Contest! LeliaSea may give out one of these hand creams. Enter by commenting! :)

~ Bethany

Snowing All the Colors of the Sky

I really do not care for the cold. AT ALL. I mean it's so... so cold. I like to be warm, and wear summer clothes, lol.

But snow...

It does make pretty pictures.

And it can be fun sometimes.

So, maybe I'll like the cold a little this year ;b

The last couple years I have not been at home this time of the year, but with friends in the far off state of Tennessee. So, it's both weird and nice to be at home... though at times I miss "my other home". 

Anyways, what I really like looking back over life, seeing how different things connect, how my life has changed because of things, how it's continuing to change. It's really fantastic that I've always kept a journal - because then I can remember those things that weren't so important and see how they extremely impacted my life to be what it is today.

Do you ever do that?

Gauge the future by what is and has been happening?

It's very fun to do - and really makes you in awe of God. Because there are just some things that I could never imagine of happening that have happened. Or things that I was sure of that became foggy memories. And just to see how some of my friendships have grown out of the weirdest circumstances... and continue to grow.

It makes you realize that, "Sure, I don't like snow, but hey. God might have some adventure through even this that I can't even begin to comprehend."

And you're like, "Wow. How did that come to this?"


Fashion post rants that have nothing to do with fashion are the best ;)

Pink. Green. Blue. All the pretty colors ;)

My hand is sort of awkward in this picture... but the cat in the background demanded to be posted! 

These mittens were made for me by a dear friend - she actually sent them to me while I stayed in Tennessee. It made my day to receive a surprise package from her, with all sorts of goodies. :)

Again, just about all of this outfit was thrifted. I made the hat. A friend made the mittens. My mom gave me the scarf.

So, do you have snow where you live? How do you like or not like it? I have always thought it would be fun to help make maple syrup when it's snowy out, then gather snow and pour the fresh syrup on the snow for a yummy treat like the did in the Laura Wilder Ingalls books :)